Newlywed rejects notion of second wife
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for seven months, and my husband wants a second wife. He says he wants a former lover to be a part of our marriage. Unfortunately, she is more than willing to sleep with him.
Now he’s talking about helping her move, even though he knows I’m against him having anything to do with her. She says she’s going to tell her daughter he is her boyfriend. I want nothing to do with her.
I sold my house, so I have nowhere to go. He refuses to go to marriage counseling because he says I am the problem. I am ready to move on. What do you think? — Ready to Move On
DEAR READY: Y ouand your husband are already living on separate planets. Unless you are willing to have another woman sharing your husband, I “think” it’s time to talk to a lawyer!
DEAR ABBY: While flying with my toddler son, he started screaming as the plane began its descent. Nothing I could do would calm him. I tried a bottle, a knuckle, a pacifier, even the corner of my shirt, but he continued to howl.
All of a sudden, a hand holding a lollipop appeared in the space between our seatsandwithitcamea soft voice that said, “It’s the change in air pressure. Try this.” I took what turned out to be a sugar-free lollipop, and the moment I unwrapped the treat, my son calmed down and sat quietly until the plane came to a stop.
Ever since then I travel with sugar-free lollipops in the event a child near me is undone by the change in cabin pressure during landing. Some parents are skeptical at first, but when I use the tone and the words once spoken to me, they usually accept the treat, calm their child and sigh in relief. I encourage parents to do the same just in case there is no lollipop angel on their flight. — Tip from Up High
DEAR TIP: Perhaps airlines should stock an emergency supply of lollipops for parents in that situation. It would be easier than handing out earplugs and tranquilizers to all the other passengers.
DEAR ABBY: My niece died last week from a fentanyl overdose. My brother lives out of town, so I offered to retrieve my niece’s belongings. I found a crack pipe and syringes. Should I tell my brother? — Keep It to Myself
DEAR KEEP IT: Please accept my sympathy for the loss your family has suffered. I think you should tell your brother. He is already aware his daughter had a drug problem. If you’re afraid the news will add to his pain, don’t be. Disclosing it could help him realize the scope of her addiction.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.