18-year-old planning breast enhancement
DEAR ABBY: My wife’s niece, a high school senior, is a beautiful girl with an excellent, well-proportioned figure. Like many girls her age, she’s narcissistic and obsessed with her looks, and constantly posting pictures of herself on social media.
She’s off to college in a few months, and to ensure she’s “attractive to boys,” she wants a boob job. She works in a clothing store and has saved toward the cost.
Her mother and aunt are willing to help her pay for it. I feel being supportive of an 18-year-old making such a major decision for the wrong reason is irresponsible parenting.
I know it’s none of my business, but I wonder what your commonsense opinion is. — Rational Uncle in the West
DEAR UNCLE: I agree getting breast enhancement surgery to be more attractive is doing it for the wrong reason. But if the surgery is approved by the girl’s mother and aunt, for your own safety, you should stay out of the minefield.
DEAR ABBY: My 23-yearold son, “John,” got his girlfriend, “Jane,” pregnant. Everyone seemed to be happy, even though they were not going to get married.
Well, they had a big fight and Jane moved out. I want to have a baby shower for my son because he is going to need stuff. Jane does not want to attend. Can I have a baby shower for my son? — Grandma in Waiting
DEAR GRANDMA: A shower for your son would be appropriate. Jane’s absence should not prevent one. However, I hope the drama will subside, and
Jane will realize children need both parents present in their lives and will be able to successfully co-parent with your son.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been getting phone calls claiming we have been charged with a crime and face dire consequences if we don’t return the call. As a recent law enforcement retiree, my husband knows these calls are bogus.
Please remind your readers NO ONE is informed of legitimate legal action by a pre-recorded phone call. This includes the IRS. Notice of legitimate action is sent through the postal service or personally delivered by a court-designated representative. I don’t want any of your readers to fall victim to this scam. — Retirees, Watch Out!
DEAR READERS: If you haven’t heard about this kind of scam, please share this item with friends and relatives. I received one of these messages about six months ago, and one of my staff members got one a few days ago. Do not engage with these con artists. Just hang up.
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