Husband’s latest ‘likes’ painful to wife
DEAR ABBY: My husband has an extensive sexual history. He has had sex with more than 80 partners. All the encounters were when he was in high school and in his early 20s.
When we met, he was honest, and I was understanding. He didn’t keep in touch with any of those females (pre-facebook). But now he’s friends with several of them on Facebook, and while he doesn’t “talk” to them, he comments and “likes” many of their posts. This makes me uncomfortable because I don’t feel that past sexual partners should be part of one’s life once someone is married. I’m not jealous or insecure, I just think it’s disrespectful. — Anxious in Arizona
DEAR ANXIOUS: Your husband was certainly active. You say he has been honest with you about his sexual history. Nowhere in your letter have you indicated that there has been any infidelity. I suspect that in spite of your denial, you may be feeling a bit insecure, and if your husband is telling you that you’re coming across as controlling, that is the way he perceives it. “Liking” the Facebook posts of someone you haven’t seen in decades isn’t inviting the person to have an affair.
DEAR ABBY: How do I get across to my parents that I don’t want them exposing my minor children to my mentally ill sister? “Evangeline” is bipolar, has borderline personality disorder and sometimes acts out in public. They know how strongly I feel about this but find ways to expose my children to her anyway. My kids don’t want to be around Evangeline, but my parents continue to push her on them. — Looking Out for My Kids
DEAR LOOKING: Mental illness isn’t contagious. As long as Evangeline is on her medication, she poses no threat to your children.
Because you feel so strongly about these encounters, tell your parents you prefer they take your children to places your sister doesn’t frequent. However, if they persist in “pushing her on,” as you put it, then you may have to consider restricting your parents’ visits with the grandkids to situations you can control.
DEAR ABBY: Can you tell me why women wear highheeled shoes? I cannot think of any benefits women derive from wearing them. Is it because they think high heels make their legs look more attractive, because it’s the fashion or some other reason? — Baffled and Confused
DEAR BAFFLED: Not only do high heels make the legs and ankles look more attractive, when a person wears them they appear to be a few pounds lighter because they look taller. THAT’S why! (Guilty as charged.)
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.