Use of app to track adult son is sick

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for five years. We live in the same town as my in-laws, and for the most part, we get along great. However, my mother-in-law does something that makes me uneasy. She uses an app to track my husband. She pressured him into installing it right before our wedding and has tracked him ever since.

She’ll often text or call him to ask why he’s going to the store, or what he was doing when he was late to work, etc. Once he tried to remove the app, but she quickly noticed and confronted him.

Part of me feels this is an invasion of my privacy as well, since we are together much of the time. It also worries me that he’s so quick to cave to his mother’s demands.

Am I wrong to be upset about this? What can I do to get my mother-in-law to give us some privacy? — Uneasy in Kansas

DEAR UNEASY: You’re not wrong. Your husband should revoke the location permission on the app or delete it.

What his mother is doing is sick. It’s a huge invasion of your and your husband’s privacy.

He is so used to caving in to his mother that he doesn’t have the strength to assert himself. I do not think you should take your mother-inlaw on by yourself.

Enlist the help of a licensed marriage and family therapist for suggestions about how to create some separation.

DEAR ABBY: My relationship with my boyfriend has been wonderful, except for one issue. He wants us to have a three-way with another woman. Some of my previous partners have suggested this as well, and it has left me feeling as though I will never be enough.

I love my boyfriend and don’t want to end the relationship, but I’m afraid I must because I don’t want to be with someone I can never satisfy (he has mentioned he plans to propose).

What do you think? If any male readers have insight,

I’d love to hear from them as well. — Not Enough

DEAR NOT ENOUGH: What your boyfriend has suggested is a common male fantasy. I can only wonder if he would react the same way you have if you suggested a threesome with him and another man.

Because this isn’t your cup of tea, you are right to have refused. What concerns me is what you think is going to happen if the two of you should marry, because this issue will not go away. I will let male readers weigh in, but personally, I think the time has come to resume your search for Mr. Right.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.