Blabber about cheap wardrobe boring
DEAR ABBY: I have a friend I’ll call Rose who likes tobragabouthowcheapshe is. Sometimes when we’re talking, she will interrupt me and ask, “How do you like my pants? I got them for a dollar at a yard sale.”
We go to a water aerobics class together, and she will interrupt the class to ask how they like her “sexy” bathing suit. Abby, Rose is in her 70s and not sexy. How can I get across that I don’t want to hear about her clothes? — Tired of the Discount Fashion Show
DEAR TIRED: If you say nothing, “Second Hand Rose” will continue her line of chatter. Try this: Say, “Rose, honey, you know how much I like you, but I wish you would stop talking about your wardrobe with me. You are interesting on so many other levels, and I’m just not into fashion.”
DEAR ABBY: Our friend’s adult daughter has been dating a guy my friend does not approve of for about three years. The daughter moved in with him, and afterward one evening, told my hus- band and me. We are friends of her mom, but we agreed to say nothing because it wasn’t our news to tell.
The daughter recently told her mother (our friend) that she and the guy are living together and that we knew. Now her mom is no longer talking to us or to her daughter. Is there any way I can repair the situation? — Missing Our Bestie
DEAR MISSING: Your friend’s daughter may be an adult chronologically, but she doesn’t act like one. She should not have kept her living arrangement from her mother and shouldn’t have asked you to keep the secret.
In hindsight, you should have told the daughter immediately that the way to keep a secret is to tell no one, especially a close friend of her mother’s, and encouraged her to level with her mom. And as to how to repair the breach — all you can do is continue apologizing and hope that eventually your friend’s fury will dissipate.
DEAR ABBY: I have a delicate problem with my boss at work. He seems to have a problem with constantly touching his crotch area. How should I address this without making matters worse for either myself or him? — Sarah in South Carolina
DEAR SARAH: Iwishyou had mentioned whether other employees also see him do this. If they do and any of them are male, it might be less embarrassing for your boss if that employee would mention to him that others are noticing. However, if you are the only employee who sees him, then the most tactful way to handle it would be to keep your gaze resolutely above his belt line.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.