How should colleague’s help be repaid?
DEAR ABBY: My colleagues and I were recently notified that our company is closing next month. My work partner and I have collaborated closely for four years, and he’s an expert at the software I need to know to get a job in my field. When I asked if he would give me a couple of lessons via Zoom, I was thinking it’d be about a three-hour commitment for him. But he was enthusiastic and designed a 20-plus-hour curriculum for me.
He keeps saying he doesn’t want me to pay him, but I want to find an appropriate way to express my gratitude. What would be an appropriate amount to compensate him? — Thankful in Illinois
DEAR THANKFUL: If you know of any interests or hobbies that your partner has outside the workplace, consider something connected to that activity that’s within your budget.
DEAR ABBY: Every year on Facebook’s National Daughter’s Day, my daughter’s mother-in-law professes her love, respect and admiration for her own daughter but never acknowledges her daughter-in-law (my daughter). Yet on National Son’s Day, she posts glowing tributes not only to her sons but also to her sonin-law.
We all live within miles of each other, and this recurring slight makes it difficult to act like everything is fine. Should I address this issue with the mother-in-law or continue to bite my tongue? — Dismissed in Texas
DEAR DISMISSED: If you are smart, rather than address the issue with your daughter’s mother-in-law, who either has the emotional intelligence of an oyster or really doesn’t care for your daughter, mention it to your son-in-law and point out to him that being slighted is hurtful. There may be a better result if he brings it up to his mother.
DEAR ABBY: I battle with a double chin, and I loathe it. My chin hides itself only if I am under 126 pounds. Anything over that and it’s there. I’m not overweight, but my double chin makes me feel that way.
I have read that dermal fillers in the chin can discreetly get rid of this issue. The problem? My husband is against any type of plastic surgery. He wants me to get rid of it “naturally.” Normally I would agree. I have been exercising (running four times a week) without success. I don’t feel comfortable looking this way.
I think I deserve this shortcut. Should I get the filler without my husband’s blessing? — Taking It on the Chin
DEAR TAKING IT: You are an adult, and it’s your body. You do not need permission to do something that will help you feel better about yourself.