Bossy sister is upset over moving out
DEAR ABBY: My older sister moved in with me after she was placed on furlough because of the pandemic. I was resistant because she likes to run the show, she has taken financial advantage of every family member, never admits she’s wrong, and I was worried she’d take over. But I wanted to help her save money, so I said yes.
Every time I make a simple request, she accuses me of trying to act like her mother! After six months she asked if I’d prefer she move in with our parents, and I said yes. Now she’s upset, and my parents are begging me to let her stay because they don’t want to deal with her. — Tired Little Sister
DEAR TIRED: I’ll tell you what not to do. Do not relent. She asked if you’d prefer she move in with your parents, and you answered her honestly.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a very hands-on person, recently retired, and I would like to do volunteer work. Sounds simple, right? Well, it seems no one needs volunteers. I have been looking for something, preferably ecological in nature, for two years. But whenever I inquire, I’m flooded with appeals for money. — Broke But Available
DEAR BROKE: You describe yourself as hands-on with an interest in things that are ecological.
Would you be interested in helping to keep your neighborhood clean and free of trash, starting a vegetable garden to feed the needy, performing yard and gardening chores for elderly members of your community who can no longer do it themselves? How about teaching a class in ecology at a community center?
If that is not to your liking, would you deliver meals to shut-ins for a while? An animal hospital or pet rescue group may be able to use a willing hand in exercising the animals in their care. The options are there.
DEAR ABBY: Iama 40-something woman and have been with my partner for four years. I am the mother of three boys; he’s a father of two girls. We live at my house.
Whenever his youngest comes to visit (she’s 16), she insists on his every second of attention. He eats it up.
It’s so frustrating. They both ignore the fact that I am here. It’s very upsetting, and I don’t think it’s normal. What about you? — Miffed in Michigan
DEAR MIFFED: I don’t know how often the girl comes to visit, but clearly she is starved for her father’s attention. I don’t think you should begrudge it unless her visits last for an extended period. Of course, your partner and his daughter should be respectful and not treat you like a piece of furniture.