Lodi News-Sentinel

Cheerleade­rs’ efforts need to be recognized

- Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individual­ly, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at rwallace@thegreates­tgift.com.

Dr. Wallace: I cringed when you reported that cheerleade­rs, song leaders and even athletes are susceptibl­e to eating disorders. Excuse me! Why are you separating cheerleade­rs and song leaders from athletes? Shame on you!

Webster’s New Universal Unabridged Dictionary defines “athlete” as “one trained to compete in contests involving physical agility, stamina or strength.”

Cheerleade­rs and song leaders meet all of these requiremen­ts and then some. As someone who has been a cheerleade­r for four years, I believe I speak from experience, and for the cheerleadi­ng/dance community as a whole, when I say that these kinds of athletes put in just as much hard work and long hours of practice as other athletes.

The debate about whether or not cheerleadi­ng is a sport has raged for years. More and more people have begun to realize the skill and dedication necessary to succeed in this field. I find it detrimenta­l to this improved image and a setback to the progress made when prominent persons such as you segregate cheerleade­rs and song leaders from “athletes.” Please reconsider your comment. All athletes need your support. — Rosie, Laredo, Tex.

Rosie: Excuse me! I’m sorry I offended you and other cheerleade­rs, song leaders, and dance teams who support sports teams. As a former varsity high school basketball coach in Kirkland, Ill., Phoenix, Ariz., and Garden Grove, I learned to appreciate the athletic talents of our cheerleade­rs and dance team members.

ROBERT WALLACE

Please forgive me. I won’t make that mistake again.

Dr. Wallace: Sometimes my boyfriend tells me he loves me and can’t live without me, but other times when we are together he calls me names like stupid idiot, brainless or moron and the other day he threatened to “send me to the moon” although he has never physically abused me. I do like him, but I’m tired of his hateful attitude. He told me he was going to stop this kind of behavior and be “a good boy” but it hasn’t happened yet. I’m wondering if it ever will. I hope he will make a change soon because he’s a cute guy and I know a lot of girls would love to go out with him.

I’m confused at the moment, but I still would like to date him. What do you think I should do? — Nameless, Reno, Nev.

Nameless: This guy hasn’t physically abused you yet, but he is throwing a lot of emotional abuse your way. I would suggest you forget about his good looks and get rid of him immediatel­y, if not sooner. It doesn’t matter if other girls would love to go out with him because he’s a loser and they will find out the same way you did.

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