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Dear Amy: I had a hard breakup. The relationship lasted almost a year and a half. It was excruciating getting over this person, even though I knew she was NOT the right person for me.

I walked away from the relationship after a big blowup where she corrected me about dancing in public. She also said other things to me on the phone that were basically put-downs.

After the breakup, she apparently found the right person immediately after we broke up, and this hurt me.

I recently met a wonderful girl who is the opposite of her and she is so good to me, but I’m still in a lot of pain. This has been super hard for me to let go and to move on completely with my life. JC

Dear JC: There is no timetable for getting over a heartbreak, and even when you know the breakup was the right thing for you, it is still a huge loss.

Try not to let your previous relationship bleed over into your current relationship. You and your new girlfriend will build up shared experiences and memories.