Daughter’s boss is horrible
Dear Amy:
My daughter, “Cynthia,” just finished her freshman year of college. She secured a summer job at a business high on her wish list.
At first she was treated well. The owner, “Marianne,” mentored her and treated her as if she were a member of the family. But that all ended very suddenly, and without warning, a few weeks in.
The owner, it turns out, is a complete nightmare — screaming, yelling, namecalling, and basically treating my daughter like garbage.
Marianne hides things and then accuses Cynthia of not doing her job. She routinely performs unethical, if not illegal, business practices. She has warned Cynthia not to tell anyone.
Cynthia takes the blame for things she did not do, and is afraid to defend herself, but refuses to quit for fear of losing out on future summer job offers.
The workplace has become so hostile that I am worried about my daughter’s physical and mental safety.
My husband and I want to confront Marianne in person, because Cynthia is paralyzed with fear. She has never, ever been treated like this during any of her high school jobs.
At what point does a parent step in to protect their child?
Concerned Parents
Dear Parents:
You should not intervene directly with this supervisor.
However, if “Cynthia’s” safety is at risk, she should not be working there — no matter what.
She should leave this job and look for another. At this point in the season, her options will be limited, but it doesn’t matter in the slightest if it’s not in her “field.” She just started college!
If “Marianne” is doing anything unethical or illegal, Cynthia should notify the business owner.
Dear Amy:
I know a woman in her mid-30s who always introduces herself as “Doctor.”
She has been an instructor at various local universities, has self-published a book and runs a parenting group. She has been interviewed in print and on the radio, always using Dr. before her name. She has a website and a LinkedIn page, both of which say that she received a doctorate from a prominent university.
However, I recently learned from someone in her same department that she never completed the doctoral program. Apparently, she has been misrepresenting herself for several years.
I scarcely know her, but it does bother me that she is using this title for personal gain and is deceiving others. Is there any way to “unmask” her?
Fraud Alert
Dear Fraud Alert:
First of all, you don’t know if the person who notified you of this “fraud” is correct about this alleged doctor’s bona fides. And rather than gossip to you about it, that person should notify the university.
Students have the right to be taught by educators who don’t inflate or misrepresent their credentials. (And the rest of us have the right to be spared a self-flattering non-doctor.)
Secondly, I realize that this is galling on some level, but it really doesn’t have anything to do with you. If she introduces herself to you as “Dr.,” you can personally challenge her.
Any educational institution seeking to employ her should check and confirm her credentials.
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