Is his wife overreacting?

Dear Amy: My wife and I have been together since 2010. Our marriage has never been perfect, but we have managed to stay together. We’ve both been married before and have kids from our first marriages.

Last weekend, my wife’s ex-husband (father of her 14year-old son) died — either from an overdose or by suicide.

Instead of her son being distraught, he is taking the news well. His dad has not been in his life much, since the dad has been in prison multiple times.

My wife, however, is torn up over his death. She has said things such as, “I can’t believe he is gone; why would he do this to us?” She has been crying nonstop.

I feel the opposite way about my ex-wife (mother of my kids). If she died, I would be throwing a huge party. I’d celebrate, not cry.

I can’t help feeling that because she is so upset about this death, that maybe there was more going on between them over the years, during the time we’ve been together.

Am I wrong for thinking there is something wrong here? WTF

Dear WTF: Yes, there is something wrong here. With you.

Perhaps your wife is crying and carrying on because she is basically begging you to notice and to talk to her about her feelings. Not for you to tell her how to feel, or expound on how you would celebrate your ex’s death (that’s nice, by the way), but to comfort her, and ask her to describe her own emotions, even if you don’t understand or share them.

The person you should both be paying close attention to is this 14-year-old boy. Kids this age never express sadness or loss the way adults do. They suppress their emotions and feel anger, confusion, depression, guilt — and sometimes relief (and then guilt about their relief ) when an absent and/or troubled parent is out of their life forever.

You stepson also has to deal with a mother who is grieving, weeping and feeling victimized and abandoned — and a stepfather who has decided to be judgmental and jealous.

I suggest you keep your eye on the ball and pay very close attention to this teenager. He needs to feel supported by the two adults in his life. Right now, he seems to have no one.

I’m a young woman. “Adam” was recently hired where I work, and my general manager told me to train him.

Immediately there was a noticeable tension between us. Adam became extremely hostile after I corrected an action of his. He began to make derogatory statements to me and about me.

I walked away and pulled my manager to the side. He told Adam that his behavior was extremely inappropriate. Adam was still rude. The next time I worked with him, he made statements regarding some of my coworkers and me.

The environment at work has quickly deteriorated.

I am moving and leaving this job in a few weeks, but should I still sit down with my manager and tell him what is going on and how I feel about it? Put-down Employee

Dear Employee: Yes, have this talk. Do not drop the ball, just because you are leaving. Document these incidents involving “Adam” and inform your manager.

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