Wife can’t stop thinking about husband’s old girlfriend

DEAR ABBY: I’m a young wife. I married after three months of dating my military husband. He was previously in an on-again/off-again relationship that lasted about eight years, during which she had a baby with another man, etc. I believe my husband is still in love with her. After constantly asking him, he says he just wishes her well and he doesn’t have any romantic feelings. I’m not sure what to do, and I just keep overthinking it. Any thoughts? – HATES HUSBAND’S HISTORY

DEAR H.H.H.: Stop torturing your husband -- and yourself -- by constantly asking him about his feelings for his unfaithful ex-girlfriend. Get to work building your self-esteem, and you will have less to worry about. Your husband’s history (baggage) is his own. You are making a mistake by dragging it into your marriage. If you concentrate on the positive, you will have a happier marriage, and so will your husband.

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DEAR ABBY: Shortly after a retired, not-so-close friend moved to another city,

by Bigar

(March 21-April 19):Attend a gathering where you can mingle and learn from other guests. Be social and express yourself, but listen to other points of view.travel plans may get put on hold. Be patient and reschedule.tonight: Get tickets to a concert.

(April 20-May 20): Deep, mixed emotions may surface when you least expect it.you may feel elated one moment and sad the next. Keep tissues close by since you may wipe a tear every now and again.tonight: Resolve differences with loved ones.

(May 21-June 20): Love is in the air.there may be an unexpected gift or invitation to dinner. Small gestures mean more than expensive presents. Do something kind for someone when they least expect it.tonight: Recall an event that made you smile.

(June 21-July 22): Start a healthy eating plan and exercise program that suits your schedule. Choose a fitness routine from an array of videos. Make sure you’re at the right level. Give yourself a gold star for taking the first step.tonight: Friendly chatter.

(July 23-Aug. 22): Follow your creative instincts.this might include meeting someone who wants to introduce you to new techniques. Participate in an activity that is active, healthy and, above all, fun. Dance, Zumba or spinning classes might suit you.tonight: Read in bed.

(Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Brush up on your mediation skills. Clear the cobwebs of a family disagreement.agree to disagree and move forward. Nostalgic memories bring a smile to your face. Contact someone who can reminisce with you.tonight: Prepare fresh fruits and vegetables.

(Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Put your multitasking skills to the test. Slow down, and you can juggle your activities.ask for feedback on an idea for a writing project. Friends and colleagues can make helpful suggestions if you let them.tonight: Laughing out loud.

(Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Pass on a get-rich-quick scheme that a friend might mention. Find creative ways to improve family finances. Sell items online you no longer need but are in mint condition.this could lead to a successful side business.tonight: Play cards.

(Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Confidence is at an all-time high. Look your best to reflect on how you feel. Challenge yourself to do things that you normally would not dare do.you can do anything if you put your mind to it.tonight:tax preparation. he began sending emails about events he had read about in social media, news outlets and magazines. At first there were only a few a day, but as the days increased, so did his emails. I responded to some of them, but he never commented on them. He just sent more and more to the point that his daily emails are more than I can -- or want to -- read. I am spending too much time deleting them. What should I do? Should I ask him not to send them anymore, or should I stay quiet so as not to hurt his feelings? – INBOX FULL IN MISSOURI

DEAR INBOX FULL: Your friend may be sending these items because, as a retiree, he has little to do but cruise the internet for entertainment. It would not be rude to tell this not-so-close friend you don’t have time to review all of the emails he has been sending and ask him to send fewer. It’s the truth. However, if he doesn’t comply and the barrage continues, feel free to block them or create a filter for these emails that sends them to a folder where they can be easily scanned and deleted.

Astrology

(Dec. 22-Jan. 19):Take a break from nonstop activity. Unwind and reboot. Listen to your intuition. It has something to tell you. Donate time or money to your favorite charity. Compassion leads you in the right direction.tonight: Imagine your dream vacation.

(Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Strategize how to approach a friend with whom you had a misunderstanding.apply your sensitivity and the issue will be cleared up in no time. Be open to constructive criticism after a group presentation.tonight: Look up old classmates online.

(Feb. 19-March 20): Get an early start and take charge of the day. Put one foot in front of the other so things will get done in record time. Look up job opportunities or volunteer positions that speak to your passion.tonight: Post snapshots.