Fed up with significant other who moves at different speed

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Step away from conflict and unpredictable situations. Concentrate on getting your life and goals in order, and rid yourself of past regrets and situations that hold you hostage. Update your skills to suit trends.

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21: A physical outlet will calm your nerves. Don’t let anyone meddle in your affairs. It’s best to verify information, not jump to conclusions. Tidy up your space. 2 stars

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19: Take your plan to the next level. Update skills and care), is on their feet all day and wants to crash during time off; I work from home and can’t stand the sight of our walls when I finish the workday.

But it’s also an issue of how we want to spend our free time: SO wants us to go shopping or get drinks with friends on the weekend, while I’m trying to plan an all-day hike. On vacations, I want to go camping, hiking and skiing, while SO wants to (again) shop, do spa days or lounge by the beach/ pool. All of which bore me to tears.

I want to share my thirst for adventure and outdoors activities with my SO, and encourage them to pursue a more active and outdoorsy lifestyle. To their credit, my SO has been trying to push themselves dear drag dreg drug dune dung earn errand under unread urea urge follow trends. You owe it to yourself to bring about change that benefits you personally and professionally. Romance is in the stars and will improve your relationship with someone special. 4 stars

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18: Don’t get involved in someone’s grievance. Look out for your interests, and handle and protect your finances and lifestyle from anyone trying to disrupt what you’ve worked so hard to achieve. 3 stars

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20: Use your imagination, take control and develop a plan that will bring out of their comfort zone. But on our latest day hike, my SO completely broke down, both physically and mentally, as the hike was too long, too steep and too rocky (their words). While I admit it was a challenging hike, we saw plenty of less physically capable hikers out on the trail. We had a bad argument, and I’m fearful of planning our next adventure.

When we were younger and dating, I compromised a lot and prioritized activities we both could enjoy at the expense of my desire for more adventurous excursions. Now that we’re getting older, I find I’m less willing to compromise with what little free time and vacation we get. I’m stuck between feeling resentment toward them for not wanting more adventures about positive change physically, emotionally and financially. Focus on romance and your relationship with the ones you love. Personal gain is within reach. 3 stars

ARIES

March 21-April 19: Approach situations realistically. When dealing with loved ones, be receptive and offer positive support. Consider what you can do to get up and moving. Physical fitness will ease stress, and romance will enhance your relationship. 3 stars

TAURUS

April 20-May 20: You’ve got what it takes to bring about a positive and feeling selfish/guilty for just doing these trips on my own.

We currently don’t have kids but are looking to start in a few years. My fear is once we do, that will be the end of any adventures. — Longing for

Adventure

Longing for Adventure: Why does anyone need to change, and why are you treating your SO as the only one who should?

I’ll wait.

Actually, no, I won’t — I’ll get impatient and extrapolate from your letter: “To their credit, my SO has been trying to push themselves out of their comfort zone.” So, you think your way is better!

That is objectionable in its own right. You have change. Discuss your plans with someone you love, and together you can change the way you do things and how you live. 4 stars

GEMINI

May 21-June 20: Be careful what you share with others. Someone will use information against you to discredit your ability to pursue something you want. A secretive approach will be necessary if you want to avoid interference and reach your goal. 2 stars

CANCER

June 21-July 22: Take a chance. Don’t let anxiety stop you from going after what you want. Discuss your hobbies and interests, which are right for you. Your SO has their hobbies and interests, which are right for your SO. To insist otherwise is patronizing, superior, smug. And the your plans with someone you love, and a change to the way you live will unfold. 5 stars

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22: Do something energetic. Focus on self-improvement, discipline and building confidence. You may not welcome a change someone makes, but in the end, it will be beneficial. Let go of the past. 3 stars

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22: Discuss your plans with friends and family. A new beginning, a change of scenery or expanding your interests, knowledge and skills will lead to a brighter future. 3 stars shaming! “Less physically capable hikers”?

Apologize for applying such relentless pressure on your SO to change to your liking — and plan your outings solo, guilt-free. rant servers. When I took them to lunch the other day, they said if I was going to pay by credit card, I should leave the tip for the server in cash. (They offered to pay the kid, but it was my treat, so I said I would leave it.)

They then explained that when a tip is left on the card, the server doesn’t get it immediately because the restaurant waits until it clears and then they get paid. Generally, the business gets around to doing it only once or twice a month. Also, on the receipt, you check off 15%, 18% or 20% of the bill. There’s no way for the server to keep track of the amount of each individual check. They don’t know if they are getting all of what’s coming to them or if the owner is pocketing some of the money.

Servers are only just now getting back to work, so I tip a little more generously than I used to. I want to make sure they get their money now. — Cash is Better

Dear Cash: I agree that cash on the barrel is probably the best way to ensure the server gets every bit of what’s intended from the client. That an employer would help themself to money intended for an employee is shameful. A word to the wise.

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22: Anger is a waste of time. Put your energy to better use and do something that will improve your life, not cause uncertainty. Be willing to listen, compromise and find a solution that won’t upset those you love. 3 stars

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21: Discuss your plans with someone you love, and make changes that will encourage you to live the life that brings you peace and happiness. It’s up to you to set goals and to strive to reach the destination of your choice. 5 stars