A few family members attend gatherings only for the food
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A creative approach to money, possessions and health matters will improve your way of life. Setting up your environment to cater to your needs and dreams is in your best interest.
CAPRICORN
Dec. 22-Jan. 19: Don’t let an outsider interfere in your personal life. Be a good listener and mull over suggestions, but when you make a decision, do whatever you feel is best for you and your loved ones. 4 stars
AQUARIUS
Jan. 20-Feb. 18: Dig deep, gather facts and be ready for any opposition the same two attended a baby shower for the same relative. They again came late, barely interacted with anyone. When the meal was served, they ate and — again, just as presents were to be opened — they got up and left.
Several attendees made comments to their rudeness. We were all brought up to believe that if you attend an event, then you stay for the event, not eat and run. If you can’t stay for the party, don’t come.
Please let us know how to deal with this relative, who feels this is acceptable behavior.
— Frustrated in the West
Frustrated in the West: Well, wait.
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PISCES
Feb. 19-March 20: A reward will come your way if you are kind and compassionate. Someone or something you cared about will surface, offering you a second chance to make a wish turn into a reality. 3 stars
ARIES
March 21-April 19: Make adjustments before someone asks you to or puts in a complaint. Be the one to make a differthe world to ruminate on, because you are currently not gathering to keep your community safe? Right?
You also don’t know your family member
“feels this is acceptable.” You she arrives late and leaves early — that’s the extent of your direct knowledge. Beyond that is speculation.
If you know her really well, then it’s informed speculation, yes. But people can swan in late and still feel shame for it, for example. Or she can know it’s wrong and know others resent it, but still have reasons for doing it that outweigh the social-damage risk. And the “grand entrance” you’re harrumphing could, to her, be a walk of shame she wishes she were organized enough to avoid. Or an unfortuence or to do something that will make others feel good. 3 stars
TAURUS
April 20-May 20:
Don’t take anything for granted. Look inward, strive to look your best and do whatever you can to make others feel good. An unusual offer or surprise will help you adjust to the changes taking place around you. 4 stars
GEMINI
May 21-June 20: You’ll learn from an experience you encounter that involves a friend or relative. Don’t trust anyone with sensitive information that can make your life difficult. Take care of pernate necessity. These are examples of speculation that doesn’t assume the worst of her.
So that’s where I will start my advice: Deal with this by not filling in any of the blanks with negative judgments. I, too, was “brought up to believe” a lot of inflexible ways of behaving and perceiving, and I can vouch firsthand for the liberating effect of rethinking and even rejecting such indoctrination.
I urge you and your fellow attendees to deal charitably with this relative and anyone else who goes off the script as harmlessly as she does.
When(ever) she arrives, be happy to see her; when(ever) she leaves, say you’re glad she came. When she’s there, engage her in conversation. Go sonal matters yourself, and develop opportunities on your own to avoid disappointment. 2 stars
CANCER
June 21-July 22: The change someone makes will motivate you to try something new and exciting. A partnership will broaden your horizons and make you realize you don’t have to do everything alone. 5 stars
LEO
July 23-Aug. 22: Don’t act in haste. A job posting may look enticing, but read between the lines and you’ll discover it’s not a step up. Don’t feel pressured to make a change prematurely. out of your way to include her — unless she’s clearly uncomfortable with hostly attention, in which case you make it your privilege to give her space.
This grace costs you
Take your time, and the right opportunity will come your way. 3 stars
VIRGO
Aug. 23-Sept. 22: A physical change will lift your spirits. A trendy look, a couple of selfies and a social media platform will draw plenty of attention. Spending quality time with someone will warm your heart and encourage you to make a romantic gesture. 3 stars
LIBRA
Sept. 23-Oct. 22: Before you spend, make sure you have enough cash. Taking on an unnecessary debt will leave you stressed about upcoming bills. You can have nothing. It might enrich you both.
You can see it as rewarding bad behavior, sure — or you can see it as prioritizing inclusion. Up to you. Latter feels kinder.
Today he is not in pain, and his naps have slowed down. I work full-time, but he had to retire.
With COVID, it’s hard to go anywhere with him. How do I stop feeling guilty if after work I want to go to a friend’s house for an hour or two, or to dinner at an outdoor restaurant? Or a drive to clear my head? I know I’ll soon be wishing I could sit on the couch and watch TV with him again, but lately, I just need to carve out a small slice of time for me. — Guilty in Massachusetts
Dear Guilty: Do not beat yourself up for being human. When a beloved spouse is terminally ill, it is extremely stressful for both the patient and the caregiver. This is why it is important for your own health to allow time for yourself. How much time can vary from individual to individual, but it must be enough to rejuvenate.
Your husband needs you, but he also needs you to be your best self so you can provide physical and emotional support during this important final chapter. If you were to talk about this with him, I am sure he would tell you that I am right. If you let your conscience guide you, you won’t go wrong, and you will have fewer regrets. just as much fun taking a walk with someone you love and live within your means. 3 stars
SCORPIO
Oct. 23-Nov. 21: Putting in the hours will pay off. Don’t let someone’s uncertainty leave you confused or wondering where you stand. 5 stars
SAGITTARIUS
Nov. 22-Dec. 21: A sensitive situation will surface with a friend or relative. Listen, but don’t make promises or take on other people’s problems. You’ll be disappointed by someone you thought was trustworthy. 2 stars