Man spoils the mood without his teeth

Dear Abby: I dated a man several years ago, and we just hooked up again. In the interim he had all of his teeth pulled. His dentures are ill- itting, and he refuses to get them adjusted. As a result, he goes without any teeth, which I ind a whole lot less than sexy. Our love life is suffering as a result.

He has tried to persuade me to kiss him without the teeth, or he sits around all evening and then runs and puts them in for a “bootie call.” But now he doesn’t even do THAT! He’ll wear the teeth to work and other places, but not with me.

We had a spat about it, and he called me shallow. Am I? — Making the Effort in Ohio

Dear Making: Your friend needs to see a dentist and get his false teeth adjusted or replaced. Out of consideration for you, he should wear them when he desires intimacy. That you don’t get turned on when he’s toothless isn’t shallow. Many women would feel the same way.

Dear Abby: Iama 53-year-old man who has had very few girlfriends, although there are some women who are interested and who I would date. The problem is, for some reason, I don’t move forward.

Could the issue be that I haven’t met the right person? Other reasons could be my insecurity, lack of trust in women, and my fear that women won’t like my lifestyle (I have no ambition). Most people ind a mate. Why not me? — Mr. Alone

Dear Mr. Alone: A licensed mental health professional can help you overcome your insecurities and inability to trust, and understand what they stem from. Once you succeed at that, you may ind you have more ambition than you currently think.

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