Woman fumes when man won’t phone her

Dear Abby: I have been in a relationship with the same man for 15 years. For the last six, we have been living together. He’s a machinist who owns his own business and works strict hours of 8 a.m. to 5 p.m., MondayFriday. Sometimes he locks his doors at 5 and works an hour or two later, but he doesn’t call to let me know he is working late. I have told him calling is common courtesy. Sometimes he does it, but often he does not. He thinks it’s “ridiculous” that I would wonder where he is.

Last Saturday morning he was up at 6 a.m. and told me he needed to drive 100 miles north of here to look at a “project” for a customer to see if he can fix it. When I asked what the project was, he said he didn’t know. It seemed odd that he wouldn’t let me go along for the ride.

He said he’d have his phone on him, and I could call anytime to see where he was.

When I didn’t hear from him all day, I started calling around 7 p.m. and three times after that, but he didn’t pick up. He pulled back into our driveway around 10 p.m. and told me he was helping the guy move cows, and he would have called me on the way home but his phone died.

I’m upset. I told him how hurt I was and that I feel disrespected. He says he deserved a day to himself. He thinks I’m being ridiculous. Am I? — Waiting and Waiting in Montana

Dear Waiting: You are not ridiculous. It was thoughtless of him not to call, but you said it doesn’t happen all the time. You are his lady friend, not his keeper. If he needs a day to himself, it might benefit your relationship to cut him some slack. And when it happens again, schedule something fun for yourself so you aren’t sitting by the phone.