Poolside outfits earn disapproval for teens

Dear Abby: My husband and I are in our 60s and have a swimming pool that our kids and grandkids like to visit. Our issue is that our granddaughter wears a bathing suit that shows her bum. It isn’t a thong, but close to it.

She’s 16 and starting her junior year of high school this year. It makes my husband and me uncomfortable, and we have told my daughter as much. Is this one of those situations where we either accept it or don’t allow her to swim with such a suit?

I love my granddaughter, but it is hard for us to understand. When she brings her friends, they dress the same way. What do you advise? — Uncomfortable Grandparents

Dear Grandparents: Because you and your spouse are uncomfortable with the amount of exposure your granddaughter and her friends display when they come to swim, you have the right to tell them to wear something less revealing. It’s your pool, and it’s your privilege to set the rules.

Dear Abby: I’ve been dating a very sweet girl for the last four months, and I’m starting to have serious feelings for her. My children like her, but she sat me down the other night and told me she’s transgender. I’m crushed, and I don’t know what to do. This blows my mind; please give me any guidance. I care a lot about this person, and I just want to cry. — Crushed in the South

Dear Crushed: You say you are starting to have serious feelings for this girl, who is not only sweet, but also HONEST. Because she has laid all her cards on the table, take this as an opportunity to have a series of frank conversations with her about what challenges might lie ahead for the both of you if this romance progresses.