This gift-giving boss needs a little bit of inclusive holiday advice

Dear Carolyn: I’m a little early, but like to plan ahead for gift-giving during the holiday season. My assistant at work is Jewish and very active in her faith, and I would like to give her a holiday gift as I have all my Christmascelebrating assistants who came before her. I’m wondering if you had any ideas about what to give and when to give it.

I feel like a lot of my standard gifts lean toward the Christian tradition — poinsettias, Christmas ornaments, stocking filled with coffee cards/chocolate etc. We get along great but work out of different locations, so I’m not so familiar with her that I can think of a specific gift she’d be sure to like.

Should I plan the gift to coincide with the first day of Hanukkah, or is there a more appropriate time to give? Am I overthinking this? Probably. But any help or insight would be much appreciated.

— Gift-Giver

Gift-Giver: I’m thinking your Jewish colleague is a wake-up to the wisdom of uncoupling your workplace appreciation gifts from religious holidays.

Conveniently, there is the New Year holiday, standing neutrally by and carrying only the calendar as symbolic freight. Coffee cards and chocolates are just as excellent wrapped in sparkly gold and silver. I’ve done extensive research on this personally.

Some thoughts from readers:

— Friendly neighborhood Jewish person here: Please take Carolyn’s suggestion. Hanukkah is not Jewish Christmas and the conflation of this minor holiday in the Jewish calendar with an important holiday on the Christian calendar is an annual frustration for nearly every Jew I know. I have received work gifts for Hanukkah from lovely and wellmeaning colleagues and bosses and have been truly touched by the fact that they care. But it is still frustrating to have Hanukkah be the only holiday that my faith is known for — and simply because of calendar reasons.

So show your assistant you care by giving a gift to celebrate the secular new year. And, please do familiarize yourself with the Jewish holidays that are far more important.