Awkward online photos put in-laws on the outs
DEARABBY » I have been with my husband for 20 years, married for eight of them. He thinks his mother can do no wrong. She takes pictures of me when I least expect it, and then posts the worst ones on Facebook. She laughs and thinks it’s funny, but I am really hurt by it.
To make it worse, his sister does the same to me now. They constantly have their phones pointed toward me, and when confronted, they deny taking pictures or insist all pictures have been deleted.
I have always supported my husband’s relationship with his family, but I don’t feel like they support us being together. I have deleted his mother as a friend on Facebook and no longer go to family functions. My husband agrees that what she’s doing is wrong, but offers no support. His family prides themselves on class, but this is anything but classy.
— Caught Off Guard
DEARCAUGHT » It isn’t classy to willfully hurt others, as your MIL and
SIL have been doing. Both appear to have a cruel streak, and this is their way of needling you
hat troubles me is that you have allowed them to drive you away from family functions, which I assume your husband is attending without you. Have another talk with him. Go to another family gathering, and when you see the cameras aimed at you, tell them to cut it out. Your spineless husband should back you up on it, tell them that it isn’t funny, and if there are any shots of you on their FB pages, HE wants them deleted immediately.
DEARABBY » I’m in an eight-year relationship, and we share a 3-yearold child together. We talk about marriage, but truth be told, I’mhaving doubts. He has a wandering eye, which is a total turn- off for me.
For instance, when we go to a restaurant and the waitress walks up to assist us, as soon as she turns around, he automatically glues his eyes on her backside. I don’t say anything about it, but it’s so annoying. Should I say anything or just continue to pretend that I don’t see?.
— W Bothered in Louisiana
DEARBOTHERED » Many men ogle, but formost of them, it’s only their eye that wanders. Because it bothers you so much you may not want to move the relationship forward, by all means speak up. Pretending not to notice has changed nothing. After eight years of silence, I think it’s time to set the father of your child straight, don’t you?
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