Confessions of A SUGAR BABY
Over 4 years, Sara-Kate has made $80,000 ‘dating’ old rich men. She tells The Post why she’s not a prostitute — and why every woman should take her advice
AFTER a sushi dinner a few years ago, the date of Sara-Kate, then a college student living in Boston, suggested they go back to his place to test a kinky new sex position. Post-coitus, the satisfied man — a 75-year-old married grandpa — experienced a medical emergency that forced him to boot her out as he called 911, but not before leaving $500 in cash on the dresser. She picked it up on her way out.
Sara-Kate, 26, who asked that her last name not be used for professional reasons, doesn’t consider herself a prostitute, but rather a “sugar baby” — a young woman who dates older men with money to spend.
“Sex has never been a requirement or expectation — it’s like any other relationship,” she says. “[Cash is] definitely more in the vein of a gift than a transaction.”
And to this day, she doesn’t shy away from geezers.
“They’re nice, and very sweet,” says the MFA student, who lives in Manhattan and has squirreled away more than $80,000 in savings since adopting the lifestyle when she was a Tufts undergrad. “It’s better to date the married ones. They have limits, and the night always has to end at some point.”
It’s this and other tricks of the trade that she imparts to newbies in the art of landing a sugar daddy on Let’s Talk Sugar. The 4-month-old advice Web site is an offshoot of SeekingArrangement, where would-be sugar babies shack up with older, moneyed and married men.
Let’s Talk Sugar schools cash-poor paramours in everything from where to find a
sugar daddy (think upscale malls) to how much you should ask for in allowance — $500 per evening is the going rate. Sample articles include “Sugar Baby Diet Tips” and “5 Gifts To Ask for From the Neiman Marcus Holiday Mag.”
“The site is a focal point where women can go and get their questions answered,” says 24-year-old Brook Urick, one of the site’s developers. The Las Vegas-based brunette, who’s casually dating a 35-year-old, Maseratidriving day trader, wants to help inexperienced women have a forum for basic questions about the lifestyle. “It’s so nice to be able to help women.”
Sara-Kate’s been doling out advice since the site launch — and has the experience to back it up. The 5-foot-10 student — who majored in Mandarin and has taught at the New School — has about 30 or so sugar daddies under her garter belt.
Her big pointers: “Mention money as little as possible — that’s a huge turnoff. Never do anything you don’t want to do. Always make sure your sugar daddy treats you like the princess you are. And have fun.”
She banks as much as $5,000 a week for companionship and more — enough to cover her Gramercy stu- dio’s $1,600 monthly rent — but doesn’t request a specific amount. “I’m addicted to being spoiled,” she says, noting that last year she walked away with an envelope stuffed with $4,100 in hundred-dollar bills after a first date, as incentive for her to stick around.
The site’s proven invaluable for Amanda, a budding gold digger who just started sugaring last month.
“It’s interesting to get a sense of how others have approached talking about the money aspect,” says the 30-year-old grade-school teacher from Park Slope, who asked that her last name be withheld for professional reasons. “And I’ve taken their advice to wear heels, no matter what.”
It’s a tip that came in handy on a recent Friday, when she met her first sugar daddy, a 46-year-old, for lunch. He immediately took notice of her sexy 3 inch black stilettos:
½ “He commented on my heels — and my low-cut shirt. He said he liked that I take care of myself.”
Since then, Amanda’s bagged two sugar daddies in their 40s. One gave her $500 in cash after a third date, while another footed her $200 Trader Joe’s bill (she had sex with both).
“I discovered this brand of man who wants to spend money on me, so why the hell not? I have $25,000 of debt from school.”
While Amanda hasn’t shared her sideline career with her family, Sara-Kate says that her parents are well aware of how she pads her bank account — and once even called her when she was cozying up to a sugar daddy in a hot tub at the Plaza. “Anyone should be able to do what they want to do, but I understand some feminists might argue with what I’m doing,” she says with a shrug. Urick agrees that while sugar babies are happily in control of their lives, not everyone else may see it that way.
“Most of the women are at peace with their moral issues,” she says resolutely. “You know what you’re doing isn’t wrong. There’s absolutely no shame in dating a guy who will spoil you.”
“It’s better to date the married ones. They have limits.”
— Sara-Kate, sugar baby