Tales of survival

The woman once accused of helping Joel Steinberg kill his adopted daughter has pulled off the ultimate disappearing act.

Hedda Nussbaum, now 75, changed her name and moved out of New York around the time Steinberg was released from prison; someone else now lives at her last known address in Hackensack, NJ.

In late 2005, Nussbaum surfaced with a selfpublished memoir, “Surviving Intimate Terrorism,” that recounted the horror of her 12 years with Steinberg. But she didn’t promote the book in New York for fear that he might show up.

Nussbaum also worked at My Sisters’ Place, a Westchester Countybased nonprofit that provides counseling and other services to victims of domestic violence.

A spokeswoman said the group no longer had a way to get in touch with her.

The other adopted child whom Steinberg and Nussbaum were raising — baby Mitchell, no relation to Lisa — has had a story with a more heartening ending.

The badly neglected boy thrived after he was returned to his Long Island birth mom, Nicole.

She renamed her son Travis, and he went on to score straight-As and graduate with honors from Massapequa HS, where he played varsity soccer and lacrosse, before attending Trinity College in Hartford, Conn.

He went on to get married and have a successful career in banking.

Neither Travis, now 31, nor his family returned requests for comment.