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THEY JUST CLICKED

Flirting is a snap on Instagram, where singles snare their prey with ‘thirst traps’ and ‘deep likes’

- By CHRISTIAN GOLLAYAN

MOVE over, Tinder and Match. Millennial­s are hooking up and even finding love on Instagram.

“It’s changed the way people communicat­e,” says Mary Beth Barone, a 26-year-old comedian based in the East Village, who says men often message her on the photo-sharing social network. “There’s so much more access — you can see people’s lives so you automatica­lly have something to talk about with them.”

Here are six ways singles are getting Insta-mate.

The thirst trap

Sabrina Zohar, who is 27 and the founder of clothing company Softwear, regularly posts photos of herself clad in lingerie, lounging around her swanky Williamsbu­rg apartment. Male followers flood her with flirtatiou­s comments, and that’s precisely one of her intentions with her “thirst traps” — pics meant to catch a love interest’s eye.

Last week, singer Demi Lovato was called out for trying to trap her prey, actor Henry Cavill, when she uploaded a sexy snap of herself in lingerie shortly after following Cavill’s account.

But there’s more to Instagram flirting than just scantily clad pics. Zohar adds an “authentic” caption about self-love and empowermen­t to let her audience know she’s genuine.

She recently uploaded a blackand-white photo of herself in a bodysuit, pantless, lying down on a shaggy rug with the caption: “Love yourself first, the rest will fall into place.”

Zohar, who’s single and has gone on a handful of first dates she met on Instagram, says such messages help her find the sort of men she’s looking for. “There’s more depth to it,” she says.

Baiting with a cute animal

You don’t need to be totally ripped to get someone’s attention. Danny Visconti, a 32-year-old television producer in the West Village, says the most alluring feature on his

Sabrina Zohar meets men on Instagram by posting sexy photos alongside inspiratio­nal messages.

Instagram feed is his 11-month-old rescue Lab mix, Clint.

“I’ll usually get a lot of responses just being like, ‘Oh, my God, he’s so cute,’ ” says Visconti, who’s currently single but has been on a few dates with men he met on Instagram. “[I’ll say,] ‘Oh, you know you can come meet him anytime you like.’ And then a handful of times they do.”

The deep like

Going into the archives of someone’s profile and liking a weeks-old or months-old photo is a bold way to express romantic interest.

“This is the Instagram flirting equivalent of making a mixtape for your crush,” says Drew Wyman, a 29-year-old entreprene­ur who met his girlfriend on the social network. “It’s obvious.”

Sliding into the DMs

Sending a flirty message to someone’s Instagram inbox has become a go-to move for many.

Dara Pollak, a food blogger whose @skinnypign­yc account has more than 84,000 followers, says she’s been flooded with direct messages from men in response to her photos of decadent burgers and cheesy pastas.

“Guys tend to be courageous about what they say,” says Pollak, who notes that the best way to stand out is by being honest and straightfo­rward while providing background on yourself.

For example, a guy recently messaged her: “I refuse to believe you eat all this and look as good as you do . . . but if you ever want to prove it, I’ll buy. Here’s my number.” Pollak was charmed, but says she’s currently not looking to meet anyone online.

Stand out with a ‘Story’

Zohar says that uploading Instagram Stories — temporary posts of videos or multiple photos that expire after 24 hours — can more effectivel­y grab someone’s attention than a permanent post.

“It’s because of the algorithm,” Zohar says. “Not everybody sees my [permanent] posts, but with the live videos [it’s more certain] somebody will see it.”

Every time she uploads a Story of herself in her underwear, Zohar receives anywhere from “10 to 15” direct messages. “It’s because people perceive I’m active [online] when I put a Story up,” she says.

Tag your way to the ‘Explore’ tab

Instagram’s “Explore” tab, which shows a grid of photos from other strangers based on your network and interests, is also a meet market, according to kickboxing instructor Suki Komonaj, 28. She went on a date with a guy she found on the Explore page because he had similar interests in fitness and had some attractive workout pics.

“I’m always on that page,” says Komonaj, who’s based in The Bronx and is currently single. To attract fitness-minded guys to her page, she uses hashtags such as #fit and #boxing to get on like-minded (and like-bodied) men’s Explore tabs.

“I wanna target somebody who likes to be in the gym like me, owning a business and such,” Komonaj says.

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