HOW TO AVOID DRAMA WITH YOUR MAMA

Parents shouldn’t have to take their kids to court to get them to leave the nest — or at least behave while they’re there. Here’s how to create a successful exit strate y.

Set a clear timeline

To keep children from staying stuck rather than striking out on their own, make it clear from the start that the arrangement is temporary, Vienna Pharaon, a therapist at Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy in Midtown, tells The Post.

Determine who does what

Before adult children come home, they and their parents need to discuss how they’ll divvy up household responsibilities. “Parents need to be able to see their child as an adult,” says Pharaon.

Enforce rules and curfews

“The home environment is not an equal one,” says marriage and family therapist Allen Wagner. Parents should be the boss and must remain committed to the long-term plan. “It should never be good cop, bad cop,” he says.

Cut off their finances

“Stop funding your child’s entitled lifestyle by no longer providing them with cash or credit cards,” says Wagner. “They need to learn responsibility and to stand on their own feet financially.”

Be prepared for pushback

“Stick to your resolve, even when the child doubles down and gives you the silent treatment,” says Wagner. “It’s emotional manipulation and you have to ignore it.” Even though your kid might hate you at the moment, they are still family and love you deep down.