New York Post

Embry-oh, boy!

Offers pour in for IVF mom seeking swap

- By JANE RIDLEY

The Brooklyn in-vitro-fertilizat­ion mom who offered to swap her girl embryo for a boy embryo is on track to create her perfect family.

Couples from across the world contacted The Post after the plea from 37-year-old actress “Lisa” to exchange her female embryo with a stranger’s boy was splashed on Page 1 Sunday. (Names have been changed for privacy reasons.)

“I’m speechless, excited and just so grateful,” she said Monday.

Lisa posted the plea in IVF-support groups on Facebook so her kindergart­ner son could have a baby brother.

The leading contender is a frozen male embryo from Manhattan — offered by a 40-year-old stay-at-home mom desperate for a daughter.

“I identify with Lisa’s problem because I have a 5-year-old son and want a girl next,” the woman, “Valerie,” said. “It’s something I’ve wanted since childhood.”

Valerie had her son through IVF in 2013 and, two years later, tapped the reserve of extra embryos she had frozen to conceive a girl.

Tragically, the pregnancy ended after 18¹/2 weeks — a scan revealed the baby had anencephal­y, a condition in which parts of the brain and skull are absent.

“She had no life expectancy at all,” said Valerie, who has been married for nine years. “It was awful. I am Catholic and had her buried in a little plot of land owned by the church.”

Ever since — with a fully equipped nursery set up in her three-bedroom condo — she has longed for a girl even more.

Valerie and her 43-year-old husband, who runs his own health-goods company, have undergone several rounds of IVF, costing around $30,000, but none of the female embryos was viable.

“I really wish I didn’t care about the gender, but I do,” said Valerie, who like Lisa was treated at New Hope Fertility Center in Midtown. “I’ve tried to change my mind but I just can’t. ”

Now she has at least 10 frozen male embryos, one of which she’d like to offer to Lisa.

As for trading him for Lisa’s girl, Valerie says she “is not there yet” and “might consider” using Lisa’s embryo “further down the line.” She is pinning her hopes on a recent retrieval at New Hope, praying it yields some female embryos.

Lisa is considerin­g options from Valerie, two Australian­s interested in trading their last embryo for a girl, and a prior offer from a California couple who “could only produce boys.”

“It is incredibly exciting,” she said.

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