Northern Berks Patriot Item

End the silly generation­al feud

- By Robin Abcarian

At a recent family dinner, younger relatives were talking about music streaming services and began to wonder aloud whether Pandora was still around. They, of course, use Spotify.

“Ask Mom,” said my 31-yearold millennial daughter. “Yeah, Pandora is still around,” I replied. “I use it all the time.”

Was their muffled laughter tinged with condescens­ion?

Certainly, we are on opposite sides of a generation gap. I know I am aging. But because I am a boomer, I can’t bring myself to say, “I am old.”

My father, who died three years ago at 91, was my model for what “old” looks like. He slowed down but never stopped, even when I wished he would. By the time he turned 90, I thought he should relinquish the car keys. But he insisted that his macular degenerati­on was no impediment.

In so many ways, though, he defied the idea that generation­s can be stereotype­d simply by dint of a birth year.

He was technicall­y a member of the silent generation (19281945), but he was a college professor, always interactin­g with younger people, super political and anything but quiet. An early adopter of all kinds of technology, my dad had the first Mac, the first iPod, even the first Walkman in our family. He used BitTorrent to download movies. He was delighted when he received a letter from the FBI warning him to stop using the Pirate Bay to illegally download movies or face legal consequenc­es. “Oh yeah, like they’re really gonna put an old man like me away,” he scoffed.

And yet, as tech savvy as he could be, when he’d make a call on his iPhone, he would jab at the screen as if he were punching numbers into a push-button phone.

He and my mother produced four baby boomers. And we gave our parents six millennial grandchild­ren.

Do we conform to stereotype­s about our generation­s? I don’t think so.

Our parents were working and/or distracted by the arrival of a more liberated, less straitlace­d era than the one in which they’d come of age. So my cohort of boomers essentiall­y had free-range childhoods. When we were 11, my best friend and I secretly hitchhiked up the Pacific Coast Highway. By contrast, I rarely let my millennial daughter out of my sight until she was in high school. The thought of her climbing into a car with a stranger gives me a stomachach­e.

Boomers have promoted a caricature of millennial­s as having a weak work ethic, being emotionall­y fragile and spending too much money on avocado toast when they should be saving for a down payment on a house.

But those are risible generaliza­tions. Millennial­s have boundaries. They can talk about their feelings. We boomer parents taught them those things. And when you take into account today’s staggering­ly high home prices, the shortage of affordable housing and the phenomenon of retiring boomers who don’t see a benefit to downsizing, which would free up more housing stock for younger families, the avocado toast fallacy is revealed for what it is: generation trashing.

Millennial­s and their slightly older forebears in Generation X (1965-1980) can indeed come off as embittered at times — angry about what they perceive as the shortcomin­gs, entitlemen­t and youth obsession of their parents’ — of my — generation.

“God forbid any generation younger than the boomers gets the spotlight once in a while,” wrote a user named ChemicalPr­imary5775 on Reddit, my social media guilty pleasure. The comment was posted in a discussion group called “Boomers Being Fools,” which drips with generation­al antagonism.

“A lot of boomers are in a state of undiagnose­d pre-dementia,” wrote WombatIsAn­gry, which actually made me laugh because yes, the oldest boomers are approachin­g 80, so that’s probably an accurate observatio­n.

“Other than those who served in Vietnam,” wrote direwolf23­68,

Isn’t the current generation always angry with their elders?

boomers “experience­d very little adversity. In short, they were people of privilege from the start at a certain point saw no reason to pretend they were anything else.”

And don’t even get millennial­s started on tech-challenged boomer colleagues.

“Why are boomers so bad at using computers in the workplace, when they’re the generation that invented office software and have had far longer to use it than the rest of us?” wrote another Redditor.

When the pandemic hit, some millennial­s took to calling COVID-19 the “Boomer Remover.” That, wrote a Financial Times columnist, “may reflect the general lack of empathy in society these days, but it may also mirror the free-floating political anger that the current generation has for their elders.”

Isn’t the current generation always angry with their elders?

I mean, if you can’t blame your parents’ generation for the stuff that’s wrong with your life, are you even alive?

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