Longtime employee is irked by colleagues’ work ethics

Dear Abby: I am almost 62 and struggling to get through the day at work. It’s not because of the work itself, but I am extremely unhappy in the work environment.

I have been here more than 20 years, and I have a real problem with the work ethic of the younger employees. They come in to work anywhere from a half-hour to two hours late. One of them takes hourlong breaks, twohour lunches and then leaves early. Another comes to work and complains nonstop about her drive, her ex and all her aches and pains. I go home every night frustrated and so stressed out I snap at my poor husband.

I really want to retire. It wouldn’t be a financial burden, although we would have to cut back on a little spending. My husband won’t offer an opinion, but I know I’d be

much happier and healthier if I did. Any advice? — Stessed and Tired

Dear Stressed: You might be happier and healthier if, rather than retire early, you talked to a licensed mental health professional about how to manage your stress. You can’t control the behavior (or misbehavior) of your younger co-workers. That’s your boss’s responsibility.

And as to the woman who complains about her aches, her pains and her ex — why are you listening to that garbage? You have only a few more years until you reach an age at which you can retire with all the benefits you have earned. Please consider what I have said and ride it out. Hates Judgment In Ohio Dear Hates Judgment: Yes, you should respond to your cousin. She needs to understand that you are changing the rules regarding further conversations with her.

Explain that it has always made you uncomfortable when she said unkind, judgmental things about family members. Tell her that in the future when you talk, it must be about positive things and not family members. After that, the ball will be in her court. See if she follows through.