Northwest Arkansas Democrat-Gazette

Drug user battling addiction offers words of hope to others

- ABIGAIL VAN BUREN www.DearAbby.com

Dear Abby: I’m currently in a mental hospital. I have been in and out for years because of suicide attempts and drug use. My drug of choice is crystal meth, and it has been a vicious cycle. I will be 20 soon. I would like to share my story with your readers who may feel lost or alone. I was sexually abused and have prostitute­d myself for drugs when I was desperate. I’m going through intensive treatment now. When I was at my lowest, my family looked the other way. What I want to tell people is to get help if they are contemplat­ing suicide. I want them to know their lives are valuable. I struggle with hallucinat­ions, and it’s scary at times. But no matter what we go through in life, we must remember that we were built to be resilient. I believe in our strength. Thanks, Abby. — Overcoming In Wisconsin Dear Overcoming: I believe in your strength as well, and I’m glad that you are getting treatment. Recovery from addiction can be a daily challenge, which takes courage and determinat­ion. You appear to have both. I am printing your letter because it carries an important message for anyone who is feeling suicidal. The number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 800273-8255, and it is toll-free.

Dear Abby: I work in close quarters with two women. They often talk politics, and I am very aware of their views. They asked me if I was voting in the midterms, and I answered in the affirmativ­e, but offered no details as my vote is my personal business. Since then, I have been told, “You are part of the problem.” “People like you ...” and, “It must be nice to not care.” I don’t know how to respond to these hurtful comments, which make me feel terrible. It makes me extremely uncomforta­ble, and I don’t think it’s appropriat­e to discuss this at work in the first place. I am not sure how to handle this if it continues. I don’t want these women to hate me. I respect them, but this is a sensitive topic. — Not The Place Dear Not The Place: I agree that, for the most part, discussing politics in the workplace is inappropri­ate because there are bound to be disagreeme­nts, which are not conducive to a pleasant environmen­t. Hopefully, now that the midterms are behind us, the hostility will die down — at least for a while. If it persists, tell your co-workers that what they are doing is hurtful and you want them to stop. And if they don’t, then discuss it with your supervisor or employer because what they are doing is creating a hostile working environmen­t.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 or visit

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