Teen surprised to discover she is attracted to women

Dear Abby: I am a 19-yearold college student (female) who needs advice regarding something I’m trying to figure out. An ex-boyfriend I’m good friends with introduced me to his new girlfriend, and I took a more-than-friendly liking to her.

My family and friends are liberal and open-minded. I know they’ll love me no matter what, but I’m confused about how I feel. While I have dated only men so far, I’d be more than willing to call a woman a partner as well. How do I come to terms with this personal revelation while I’m still exploring it? —

Bi-Confused

Dear Bi-Confused: The logical way to come to terms with the revelation would be to follow it and see where it leads. I would only caution you to make sure the person is available and the interest is mutual when you do.

Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Aiden,” and I have been together for eight months. We go to his parents’ house every other week for dinner. We get along quite well.

The problem is, Aiden’s family eats very quickly, and I’m always the last one done. My family tends to spend about an hour around the table when we gather. Even when I eat quickly, I’m still way behind Aiden’s family.

How can I politely address this? I hate to keep people waiting, but I believe it’s wrong to leave food on my plate when I’m still hungry. — Chewing As Fast As I Can

Dear Chewing: I agree you shouldn’t leave food on your plate if you are still hungry. Eating slowly, thoroughly chewing one’s food and enjoying a meal in a relaxed manner is healthy. Wolfing down one’s food really isn’t. You are not going to change Aiden’s family’s lifestyle. If you bring this up, they may become defensive. Just enjoy your food as you have been, and let them enjoy theirs in the way they are used to.

Dear Abby: What is an appropriate age to stop sending money or gifts to nieces, nephews and grandchildren? It is not that I can’t afford to send these gifts, but as adults they shouldn’t expect me to continue sending them money. I dread when my nephews start having children. Does that constitute another longterm obligation? — Buying Their Love In Atlanta

Dear Buying: The appropriate age to turn off the automated gift spigot would be when the “child” stops showing appreciation or reaches adulthood. You are not obligated to give your nephews gifts for their children unless you are attending their baby showers or birthday celebrations.