Gal pal encroaches on man’s relationship with girlfriend

Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year. He has several female friends whom I like very much. However, one of them texts him every day, even while we are together. She also sends Facebook messages, sometimes calls him at work and she “drops in” at his home.

She is married with a family of her own, but she seems to be obsessed with my boyfriend. I have expressed my concern about her behavior. He just continues to repeat that there is nothing going on. How can I make him understand that they can still be friends, but he needs to set some boundaries? — Fed

Up In New York

Dear Fed Up: Your boyfriend is allowed to be friends with anyone he wishes. However, because you think the attention he’s receiving from this woman infringes on your time with him, you should say that to him. If you do, perhaps he may tell her to tone it down.

Dear Abby: I volunteer at a county no-kill animal shelter. Every week, people come in looking for a lost pet. “What did he look like?” “How old was she?” And then the burning question, “Was your pet microchipped?” Too often the answer is “No.”

Please remind your readers that if they care about their pets to please have them microchipped. Any veterinarian’s office can do it. A county shelter can do it, too. It’s not expensive. It will give people a much better chance of having their friend returned, even if they are far away. — Animal Lover In Utah

Dear Animal Lover: I’m glad you wrote. I hope my animal-guardian readers will heed your advice. Furry family members are sometimes stolen, and they often like to roam when they see an opportunity. If pets are microchipped, it increases the odds of them being recovered.

Dear Abby: Can you please explain the guidelines for reciprocating invitations? We have invited the “Smiths” to our home three times. Each time they were busy, so we stopped extending invitations. Then they had us over, and we had a really good time. This week I tried to reciprocate and, again, they are busy. Should I keep trying? — Good Times In California

Dear Good Times: No rule of etiquette requires you to continue trying to coax this couple to your home. After three refusals, it’s reasonable to conclude that they prefer to do the entertaining. While some might regard their refusals as a snub, I don’t think you should because they did invite you over. Because you feel obligated, try inviting them out to dinner, and see if that brings better results.