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Dear Amy: My 22-year-old daughter has moved back home after graduating from college. She has a job. Recently she let me know that I am not being respectful to her.

Every weekend she takes off for parts unknown (to me), with people also largely unknown (to me).

I text her in the morning and evening, just to check in.

She is highly offended by this, calling me intrusive. She says I am not treating her like an adult.

She has said that until she can move out, I am forbidden to ask her where she's going and who she is with.

I get it, Amy. I need to stay in my lane. This is a learning/adjustment for me as well.

I recently retired after more than 30 years of teaching. I too am trying to adjust to my new normal.

I do not want to chase her away, and I will not pay rent on an apartment for her.

My husband avoids conflict and supports our daughter's side.

I'm asking for some advice on how to save our relationship before it is ruined. Dear Mother: You might be acting like a slightly overprotective parent, but your daughter is acting like a typical adolescent.

The two of you should communicate about your mutual expectations.

Your daughter wants to be treated like an adult, and so she should start behaving like one.

In my household, if one of our young adults is living with us (there are five and they have each landed at home for varied durations), they know they are expected to provide a basic outline of where they are.

This is mainly for security reasons (for assurances that they are safe), but it is also simply polite to let the homeowner know what time someone might be entering the house.

No, you should not demand or even expect your daughter to tell you who she is with. Nor should you expect her to report her precise movements. Most importantly, she should respond promptly when you text or call. If she has been out for the night and you text her in the morning to say, “I'm just checking in — are you good?”

Your daughter should understand that you worry when you don't know where she is, or when you haven't heard from her.