Eye-popping hot tub hopping in the offing

DEAR AMY >> My husband and I are having a hot tub delivered soon.

We plan to use it during daylight hours without wearing swimwear.

Yes, nude! Yes, we have neighbors, about 40 feet away, who could see us if they choose to — in the tub or hopping from our patio door 20 feet to the tub.

We’re not shy and don’t plan to cover up. And no, we’re not going to “exhibit” ourselves.

We just want to enjoy our tub in our birthday suits.

Some non-neighbor friends are appalled.

Your thoughts?

— Bare as God Intended,

EH

DEAR BARE >> You will be romping only on your own property, and I can’t imagine that your nudity would be breaking any laws (you should check your local statutes).

However, are you perhaps reveling in the prospect of alarming your neighbors? Just a little bit?

And yes — of course — despite what you claim, you do seem to be planning to “exhibit” yourselves.

It would be easy for you to drape a towel around yourselves for that 20-foot journey from your house to the hot tub (don’t you need a towel, anyway?).

You might have neighbors who would choose to pull their shades, build a tall (or taller) fence, or simply stop using their own backyard — or you might have neighbors who would welcome your hot tubbing by training binoculars in your direction or photographing you from their property and posting photos or video on social media.

It is something of a tricky legal issue, but if neighbors can freely see you from their own property without peering through a window or a fence, your own right to privacy is less assured.

DEAR AMY >> I applaud your response to J in NY, the uncle who feels a child should hug an adult even when uncomfortable.

I was raised in the generation who believed children should make other people happy and allow unwanted touching, even when uncomfortable.

When I was touched inappropriately, I kept quiet. When I was sexually harassed, I kept quiet. I had been taught to ignore my own discomfort.

I am determined that my young daughter will have autonomy over who is allowed to touch her. She is the child, and she is not responsible for adult feelings.

We have already had issues with family members, and even strangers, trying to invade her space.

Other loving adults in a child’s life should not take it personally. Instead, they should try to understand that we all need to protect our children from the dangerous people lurking in the shadows.

DEAR MAMA BEAR >> Tragically, predators are most often not “dangerous people lurking in the shadows,” but family members or friends.