Dealing with parent stress
The year 2020 sure will be remembered. So far this year, it feels as if we have experienced more flu and illness than in recent times. Academically, parents have not traditionally been in the role to play teacher due to schools being out. This year has certainly challenged us all to think outside the box and manage the best we can.
In my role, I have several parents who reach out to me and ask for resources, and sometimes just moral support. Being a parent in these times can be tough, and even more so when we are practicing social distancing and isolation. It is important to take care of ourselves as parents and feel supported.
So here are Ms. Amanda’s general rules on parent self-care:
First off, You are not a superhero, you are human. Give yourself an ounce of grace. Sometimes as humans, we can be forgetful, we say things we don’t mean, and even have regrets.
• Number 1: Avoid extra stressful situations. If you feel overwhelmed, take a break, don’t decide to set a goal to accomplish big and stressful tasks (laundry — unless you enjoy laundry).
• Number 2: Come up with a new routine. Decide on a wake up time, bed time, lunch time, anything that gives your day structure. Get the kids involved with making this routine and ways they can participate. Just like any good team, make a family team! Creating this culture can help decrease stress and make the work feel shared rather than one person feeling responsible for everything. • Number 3: Take a break when needed. It can be normal to become overwhelmed and irritated. If you find yourself starting to get agitated, make sure the kids are safe, and take a break and do a brief activity to decrease your stress. Activities could be taking deep breaths, listen to a song you enjoy, do some stretching or some kind of exercise, or sit alone in silence if possible. Find a short and small activity that can help you calm down.
• Number 4: Find time to do something for you. Once you can have time, maybe while children are napping, sleeping, or maybe they’re old enough to take care of themselves in the same house while you’re there. Some activities could include, crafting, coloring, puzzles, card games, reading a book or article. Find something you enjoy!
• Lastly, Number 5: Find a tribe. Utilizing Facebook, Google hangouts, Zoom, Facetime, or any safe social media to connect with other adults. Having other adults to talk to can help you realize you’re not alone.
Times right now are stressful, and uncertain, but please always remember you are not alone.
•••
Editor’s note: Amanda Childs, social worker for Pea Ridge Schools, can be reached at achilds@ pearidgek12.com.