Teenage niece wants cosmetic surgery before she starts college

Dear Abby: My wife’s niece, a high school senior, is a beautiful girl with an excellent, well-proportioned figure. Like many girls her age, she’s narcissistic and obsessed with her looks, and constantly posting pictures of herself on social media.

She’s off to college in a few months, and “in order to ensure she’s attractive to boys,” wants to get a boob job. She works in a clothing store and has saved toward the cost.

Her mother and aunt are supportive and willing to help her pay for it.

I feel being supportive of an 18-year-old making such a major decision for what I think is the wrong reason is irresponsible parenting.

I know it’s absolutely none of my business, and I won’t say a word, but I wonder what your commonsense opinion is. They do read your column.

— Rational Uncle

In The West

Dear Uncle: If the cosmetic surgery is approved by the girl’s mother and aunt, for your own safety, you should stay out of the minefield.

Dear Abby: My 23year-old son, “John,” got his girlfriend, “Jane,” pregnant. Everyone seemed to be happy even though they were not going to get married. Well, they had a big fight and Jane moved out. They say their relationship is over and irreparable. I want to have a baby shower for my son because he is going to need stuff at his house, too. Jane does not want to attend. Can I have a baby shower for my son? — Grandma In Waiting

Dear Grandma: Under the circumstances, a shower for your son would be appropriate for the reason you stated in your letter. Jane’s absence should not prevent there from being one.