Crush on a married boss causes heartache every day for employee

Dear Abby: I’m 20 years old and have a job in retail. I have been working here for a few years and am in a higher position than most associates.

I’m in a relationship with my high school sweetheart, whom I truly love, but I am also crazy about my boss. She’s beautiful, funny, and to be honest, I jumped at my promotion so I could get closer to her. I feel terrible because, while I love my girlfriend (she’s amazing), if I were given the chance to be with my boss, I’d have a hard time saying no. Thankfully, my boss is in a long-term marriage, so I know in my head I have no chance, but it hurts to go on every day thinking about her. What should I do?

— Really Confused

In Retail

Dear Really Confused: Because you are excelling in this retail job, consider asking your beautiful, funny, married boss to write a positive letter of recommendation for you so you can find another job in retail — one that won’t make you ache.

Dear Abby: My husband and I have been asked to be in his sister’s wedding. We said yes, mostly out of obligation.

There will be three married couples in the procession. I recently learned that my sister-in-law plans to have the couples split up and walk with others. I think it’s extremely weird and rude, so much so that we want to back out. Neither of us cares to be in a memory book with us posing with other people. It’s not that either of us is jealous; we have been married for 24 years. What do you think?

— Feeling Obligated

In The East

Dear Feeling Obligated: I think that before you take offense and back out, you should ask your sisterin-law why she wants to do this.