Reader’s social anxieties are prolonging his feelings of loneliness

Dear Abby: When I was a teenager, there were many times when I made things awkward. It continues today. I try to have normal conversations with people, but when I do, I have nothing to say. My mind goes blank.

The only time I’m successful socially with people is at work because I’m kind of forced to be. I want to make friends and possibly get a girl in my life, but it’s almost impossible to do with my social skills. This is so depressing and disappointing that I’m almost ready to quit trying. I need some tips and guidance. Do you have any?

— Frustrated Guy In

Fairbanks other people. Ask them about what they think and encourage them to share their interests and opinions. Be a good listener.

Dear Abby: I was divorced three years ago after being married for 28 years. My ex-wife and I had spent the previous 10 years in counseling. I currently go to post-divorce counseling, and my counselor agrees that I was mistreated by my ex and our adult children. I have begun seeing a much younger woman, and two of my kids say any relationship with them is predicated on my dating someone “my own age.” Your thoughts?

— Butler Dad In Texas