Long mar­riage hasn’t been happy due to cou­ple liv­ing sep­a­rate lives


Dear Abby: I have been mar­ried for 30 years. Although my hus­band and I are both pos­i­tive peo­ple, we have not had a happy mar­riage.

He leads the life of a bach­e­lor, in­clud­ing sex with other women and uni­lat­eral de­ci­sion-mak­ing. He’s out­go­ing, gen­er­ous and well-liked. I’m a home­body who of­ten feels lonely and re­jected.

Out­siders would be sur­prised at the true na­ture of our re­la­tion­ship. We have been to coun­sel­ing, but it didn’t help. Why do I stay in this mar­riage? What’s wrong with me? Are there oth­ers like me?

— In­cred­u­lous

In In­di­ana

Dear In­cred­u­lous: You wouldn’t have stayed mar­ried to your hus­band

Dear Abby: I dated this woman for al­most a year. It ended when she gave me an ul­ti­ma­tum: con­vert to her re­li­gion or walk. She is Pen­te­costal, and I am Catholic. We are both deeply rooted to our own churches.

A few months have gone by. She still has deep feel­ings for me, but I don’t know if I feel the same way be­cause of her ul­ti­ma­tum. One of us must con­vert or we won’t be able to move for­ward. But there are big dif­fer­ences be­tween the two re­li­gions. What should I do?

— Con­vert­ing In The South

Dear Con­vert­ing: Be­cause you are deeply rooted in your Catholi­cism and no longer sure you feel the same way about her, let her go so she can find a good Pen­te­costal hus­band. Re­li­gion is some­thing a per­son must be­lieve in, not switch to please some­one.

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from USA

© PressReader. All rights reserved.