Reader doesn’t want to tell people about migraines when canceling

Dear Abby: I am a young adult who suffers from migraines, which make it difficult to have much of a social life. My family and close friends know about them and are supportive and understanding. However, I’m a private person and don’t like talking about it with new people.

It’s hard to make friends and go on dates when I know I might have to flake out at the last minute due to a migraine. What’s a good way to gracefully bow out of plans without seeming like a flake?

— Hurting In New York

Dear Hurting: Suffering from migraines is nothing to be ashamed of. More than 12 percent of people in the U.S. share

Dear Abby: I am the youngest of four children. Every Sunday, our family gets together for Sunday dinner, a tradition I have loved since I was a kid, although lately, I have grown less fond of Sundays. Here is why: I am now 30 and the tallest sibling in my family, yet I am made to feel as though I am the smallest.

No one listens to me; no one asks my advice. I could be at the table with my finger up my nose and I don’t think anyone would even notice. I say things and no one acknowledges me. Sometimes I feel as though I don’t even exist. It’s as if because I’m the youngest, I have no importance. What can I do to change this?

— Patience Running

Thin

Dear Patience: Allow me to suggest that at the next Sunday dinner you speak up loud and clear and say exactly that.