Couple’s relationship changes after man moves in with girlfriend

Dear Abby: After being together for a year, my boyfriend and I recently moved in together. Since then he hasn’t been home much. We don’t spend time together the way we used to when we first started dating. He has changed a lot. I have kids from a previous relationship. My boyfriend recently told me he always wanted to be the first guy to give a girl her first child. I just want to know if I should let him go or try to fight for him because I’m in love with him. — Second Thoughts In Chicago

Dear Second Thoughts: Your boyfriend knew you had children when he began dating you. I think it is time the two of you have another conversation about what he told you, because he may have been rehearsing his exit speech. Life rarely turns out the way we fantasize that it will. If he is considering ending your relationship in order to “give a girl her first child,” the sooner you know about it, the better — for you.

Dear Abby: My mother and father have been divorced for eight years. Since then, she has found a younger guy who is about eight years older than I am. I’m 23. The age difference always bothered me, but what bothers me even more is she’s always doing for him and he gives her nothing in return. Since day one I have been convinced he’s using her for shelter and food. However, she can’t seem to recognize it. I don’t know what to do, Abby. I’m just tired of my mom being used by men. — Daughter In Delaware

Dear Daughter: I appreciate your concerns about your mother, but until she’s ready to admit to herself that what’s happening is part of an ongoing pattern, nothing will change.