Reader doesn’t know how to stop her in-law’s creepy staring and winking

Dear Abby: My family is very close, and we see each other often. Lately I have been avoiding most of our family gatherings because of my brother-in-law “Jared.”

At the most recent family occasion, he was staring, winking and flashing peace signs at me. This is not friendly banter; it is very creepy. My sister isn’t aware of it, and I’m sure she wouldn’t approve.

I have been married four times, and I’m currently single. If his behavior continues, which I’m sure it will since I am a very desirable woman, I will have to skip family events entirely. Any thoughts?

— Hard To Resist

Out West

Dear Hard To Resist: Your letter is unique. I rarely hear from people with as “healthy” an ego as yours. Because you feel your brother-in-law is out of line, try this: Tell him to cut it out the next time he does it because it is making you uncomfortable. And if that doesn’t do the trick, tell his wife.

Dear Abby: I’m a male who recently started dating a great guy, “Jake.” I deal with the public in my job every day, and I’m often asked things like, “Do you have a girlfriend?” and, “When will you find a wife?” Even my co-workers are inquiring when I’ll find a “lucky girl.” I’m happy in my relationship and would like to express that. Is there a tactful, succinct, non-awkward way to let people know I’m in a happy relationship with another male?

— In A Happy Place

In Georgia

Dear Happy: Absolutely! When asked if you have a girlfriend, say, “No, I have a boyfriend.” And when your co-workers ask when you are going to find a wife or a “lucky girl,” be upfront and tell them you are dating a great guy named Jake.

That should answer the questions and put the subject to rest.