Disconnect regarding faith may herald the demise of relationship

Dear Abby: I have been dating this guy seriously for a year. We have talked about marriage and we were even looking at rings. Due to certain recent events, I have come to realize that my hope for his Christianity to grow stronger is probably never going to happen. I love this man with all my heart, but I also need a husband who will pray with me, have a heart for God, who will want to go to church and make decisions by praying and leaning on God.

We have talked about this and what my needs are, but he’s not sure if he will get there. Do I hold on and hope he will learn how to walk with God fully, or should I let him go and try to find someone else?

— Brokenhearted Believer

Dear Believer: If you can’t accept this man just the way he is, let him go. You shouldn’t marry anyone hoping to change him. If faith is your No. 1 priority, it would be better for both of you if you look further for a life partner.

Dear Abby: My friend “Gina” and I have known each other for many years.

The other day she got into a heated discussion on Facebook with several other people we’ve known for years.

It was about politics. When I read her post, I was shocked. She belittled and bullied those who didn’t share her opinion. I have since deleted my FB account because I don’t want to see such hatred. What do I tell her when she asks why I’m no longer on social media?

— Social Media Distanced

Dear Social: Tell Gina the truth. Say you deleted your account because you were shocked when you saw people with differing political opinions being bullied and demeaned, which you found shocking and offensive.