Woman struggles to trust that her bisexual boyfriend will not stray
Dear Abby: I am a 49year-old woman who has been in a romantic relationship with a good, caring man for two years. We live together, and he shows me all the time how much he loves me. We have amazing chemistry and are very affectionate. We enjoy spending time together.
When we first started dating, he told me he was bisexual and had had relationships with men. He insists I am his true love and he is with only me now. He has never shown signs of straying, but sometimes I get insecure and wonder if I should take him at his word. Should I trust him? — Wants to be Sure
in Rhode Island
Dear Wants: This man has been upfront with you. During the last two years,
he has given you no reason to believe he is untrustworthy, so take steps to deal with your insecurity and take him at his word.
Dear Abby: My son and daughter-in-law — the parents of three minor children — were divorced in 2019. Prior to their divorce, the EX-DIL got pregnant by another man.
She has since had a little girl. My dilemma is, do I include the new little girl when they come to visit Grandma? She is still my grandchildren’s half-sister. As they get older and come to visit me, I would feel bad leaving her out of events. My son is livid that I would even consider including her.
Her other grandparents refuse to have anything to do with her. How do I deal with this?
— Dilemma in the
Midwest
Dear Dilemma: You have a loving heart. To exclude their half-sister would be logistically difficult and cruel to a child who is blameless. Your son may not like the situation, but it is time for him to grow up and face reality.