New spouse cannot stop thinking about her husband’s old girlfriend

Dear Abby: I’m a young wife. I married after three months of dating my military husband. He was previously in an on-again/ off-again relationship that lasted about eight years, during which she had a baby with another man, etc. I believe my husband is still in love with her. After asking him, he says he just wishes her well and he doesn’t have any romantic feelings. I’m not sure what to do. Any thoughts?

— Hates Husband’s History

Dear H.H.H.: Stop torturing your husband — and yourself — by constantly asking him about his feelings for his unfaithful ex-girlfriend. Get to work building your self-esteem, and you will have less to worry about.

Your husband’s history is his own. You are making a mistake by dragging it into your marriage. If you concentrate on the positive, you will have a happier marriage.

Dear Abby: Shortly after a retired, not-so-close friend moved to another city, he began sending emails about events he had read about in social media, news outlets and magazines. At first there were only a few a day, but as the days increased, so did his emails. I responded to some of them, but he never commented on them. He just sent more and more to the point that his daily emails are more than I can read. I am spending too much time deleting them. What should I do?

— Inbox Full in Missouri

Dear Inbox Full: Your friend may be sending these items because he has little to do but cruise the internet for entertainment. It would not be rude to tell this not-so-close friend you don’t have time to review all of the emails he has been sending and ask him to send fewer.