Husband won’t put an end to his infidelity even after being caught
Dear Abby: I have been married for 23 years. About a year ago, our 22year-old daughter became suspicious that her dad might be having an affair. She found out it was true through his text messages. When we sat down as a family and discussed it, at first he denied it. My husband and I talked to work things out and I took him to confession. We later all went away for a vacation together.
Some time has passed, and I looked at his phone and saw he’s been at it again. Recently, I’ve been going to counseling. I need advice. — Suspicious in New Jersey
Dear Suspicious: By now it should be apparent that your husband cannot or will not stop womanizing and lying to you. I’m glad you are seeing a licensed therapist, because you need to decide rationally whether the situation you’re living with is one you are willing to tolerate. You should also schedule an appointment an attorney to find out what your rights are as a wife of 23 years in New Jersey.
Dear Abby: I met this guy online three months ago. He’s the greatest guy I have ever met. He respects me in ways no other man has respected me, and I appreciate that about him so much. I feel like I may be in love with him, but I don’t know if that’s the case or if it’s because I’m alone and vulnerable. I was never close with my biological father or my adoptive father, so some of this may be “daddy issues.” Should I tell him how I feel about him, or is it way too soon?
— Taken by Him
in Michigan
Dear Taken: It would be more prudent to wait until you are sure about your feelings for this guy before declaring your love. Slow down.