Porn addiction rocks long-time marriage
DEAR ABBY » A friend of mine has recently discovered that her husband of 40-plus years has been hiding a decades-long porn addiction. The discovery has caused a problem in their marriage. They have had counseling.
He says he wants to save their marriage and has vowed to give up the porn. I was told he told his wife that if she decides to divorce him, he will tell the entire family and their children that SHE was the one addicted to porn, and it is the reason he’s divorcing her. My question is, what kind of person would treat his wife this way and think this is an appropriate way to save the marriage? — Twisted in
Kentucky
DEAR TWISTED
» Unfortunately, the husband has a problem greater than his porn addiction. His threat is not only inappropriate, but also a valid reason to end the marriage.
DEAR ABBY » In 1972, when I was 12, my father died by suicide. I was told it was an accident. I was given an explanation, but the facts didn’t add up. I suspected it was suicide. In 1998, my brother also died by suicide.
Around the time of my brother’s death, I lost my best friend/co-worker/father figure of 17 years to suicide. His son was told his dad had had a heart attack. Should I remain silent as I have for more than 20 years?
DEAR DILEMMA » I do think you should talk to your friend’s son. Introduce the topic by telling him what happened in your family, how much his father meant to you and your concern for him and his own family, which is why you are bringing it up now.