Mom’s intuition warns of trouble under her roof

DEAR ABBY » I suspect that something has been going on with my husband and our daughter-in-law. My husband has become obsessed with her, and they both seem to become nervous when they are around me at the same time.

My son and daughterin-law and their three kids live in our duplex, but my son isn’t home most of the day. Should I be concerned about what’s going on with them?

— Worried in Wisconsin

DEAR WORRIED » I hope you are wrong, but if “everything in you” is telling you something is not right, listen to your intuition.

Continue monitoring the situation and keep a journal of your observations.

If your marital relationship with your husband has changed, it’s a red flag. Talk to him about it. It may take the services of a licensed marriage and family therapist.

DEAR ABBY » I have a relationship problem I hope you can help me with. I have loved this woman for years. We parted because I had to move away to Japan.

Well, a few years ago, we met again. We began to communicate, and all my feelings for her rushed back after all these years.

I know she doesn’t feel the same way about me. How can I let her know how bad it hurts, this unrequited love?

— Smitten in the west

DEAR SMITTEN » I don’t think that’s such a good idea. Knowing this woman doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, do you really think informing her that “all those feelings have rushed back” will endear you? It may cause her embarrassment. You will be happier if you stop dwelling on your unrequited love from the past.