New wife can’t stop thinking about husband’s ex

DEAR ABBY » I’m a young wife. I married after three months of dating my military husband. He was previously in an onagain/off-again relationship that lasted about eight years, during which she had a baby with another man, etc. I believe my husband is still in love with her. I’m not sure what to do, and I just keep overthinking it. Any thoughts? — Hates Husband’s

History

DEAR H.H.H. » Stop torturing your husband — and yourself. Get to work building your self-esteem, and you will have less to worry about. Your husband’s history (baggage) is his own. You are making a mistake by dragging it into your marriage.

DEAR ABBY »

Shortly after a retired, not-soclose friend moved to another city, he began sending emails about events he had read about in social media, news outlets and magazines. At first there were only a few a day, but as the days increased, so did his emails. I responded to some of them, but he never commented on them. He just sent more and more to the point that his daily emails are more than I can — or want to — read. What should I do?

— Inbox Full in Missouri

DEAR INBOX FULL » Your friend may be sending these items because, as a retiree, he has little to do but cruise the internet for entertainment. It would not be rude to tell this not-so-close friend you don’t have time to review all of the emails he has been sending and ask him to send fewer. It’s the truth. However, if he doesn’t comply and the barrage continues, feel free to block them or create a filter.