Girlfriend wants live-in beau to end his marriage

DEAR ABBY » I have been with a man for the last six years. He has been separated for 20 years. When I asked him if he was going to finalize his divorce, he said no. When I said I would like a commitment, he said he gave me one when he moved in five years ago. I said I want more. His wife even asked him for a divorce, but he said it’s expensive. I told him by my upcoming 50th birthday I want a yes or no on the divorce. What should I do?

— In Limbo in Massachusetts

DEAR IN LIMBO » Assuming this man lives with you rent-free, you have spent the last six years with a houseguest who is more concerned with his net worth than your need for validation. If his wife wanted a divorce, it would have happened already, and the issue of property division could have been bifurcated (separated). Obviously, this arrangement is serving them both in some way. Your next step should be to make a final decision about whether the status quo is acceptable to you.

DEAR ABBY » I have a class reunion coming up and want some advice on how to stop a fellow classmate from giving a religious sermon. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but after the last reunion, several people complained about his lengthy preaching. How can I handle this issue?

— Wants to Have

a Good Time

DEAR WANTS » Handle this uncomfortable situation by advising all the speakers that their remarks must be limited to no more than three minutes. Of course, if the “sermon” runs long, you will have to step forward and call a halt to it by asking the audience to give the person a big hand to show their appreciation.