Mom dislikes son for resemblance to her brother

DEAR ABBY » My 25-year-old son is a single father of three boys, 6, 4 and almost 3. They have been living with me, my youngest and my husband in a two-bedroom house for a while now, and I’m not happy with my life.

I enjoy my grandkids, but I don’t enjoy my son. He looks and acts like my older brother, who I never liked because he was mean and bullied me even as an adult. What can I say or do to get my son out, and how do I deal with my feelings toward him? I love him, but I don’t really like him.

— Over It in New Mexico

DEAR OVER IT » If the only thing you have against your son is his strong physical resemblance to your brother — whom you dislike for good reason — you are being unfair to him. However, this is your home, and if the conditions are no longer pleasant for you, you have the right to change them. Give your son a reasonable deadline to find other living arrangements without alienating him.

DEAR ABBY » Every day when I bring my lunch to work, one of my co-workers asks, “Hey, what are you eating?” I tell her and offer her some, and she accepts each and every time. This has been going on for weeks. While I’m not against sharing, I would like to enjoy my entire lunch.

The last time she asked, I told her what I was eating, but did NOT offer her any. Was that wrong? Bear in mind that when she does it, she has already eaten her own lunch.

— Hungry in the South

DEAR HUNGRY » Now that you know your coworker is a human vacuum cleaner, continue to just answer her question. I’m betting she would soon stop asking.