Beau doesn’t help during emergency DEAR ABBY

Dear Abby: I’ve been dating “Karl” for five years. We live separately. I thought our relationship was pretty solid until a recent health scare. A few days ago, I had a severe allergic reaction to something I ate at dinner. When I realized how serious it was, I immediately rushed to the ER. (I had taken an antihistamine instead of calling the paramedics.)

I quickly messaged Karl that I was having amedical emergency. The doctor said these reactions can be fatal and will become increasingly worse after each reaction. Karl was working and said he couldn’t leave work. He didn’t make sure I got home safely or even come to the house later to check onme. When I asked him for help picking up themanymeds I needed the next morning, he again said he was working. I was furious, and did itmyself although

I shouldn’t have been driving. I know I’m emotional due to meds and trauma. Am I overreacting?

Disappointed in Oregon

Dear Disappointed: You are NOT overreacting. You were fortunate to have made it to the emergency room because you could have died on the way. Karl’s reaction to your crisis was incredibly callous. Please think very carefully about a future with this person because he isn’t going to change. Start compiling a list of people you CAN depend upon should the need arise. Karl definitely isn’t one. If you were counting on him to be your life partner, change your mind now.

Dear Abby: When I was a kid, I was called a “chatterbox,” and it continued untilmy mid-30s. Somewhere

I came across the saying that it’s better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. It made sense to me, so I shut up.

Now I’m close to retirement, and people complain that I don’t talk enough! I detest social gatherings where Imust make polite conversation. And with people I do know, I’m afraid of saying toomuch. Any recommendations? FormerChatterbox

in Pennsylvania

Dear Former Chatterbox:

Conversation isn’t supposed to be amonologue; it is supposed to be a dialogue — an exchange of information. If you find yourself dominating a conversation, pause, ask questions and listen to the answers. For those who say you don’t hold up your end, consider making a list in advance of topics.