Empty seats and delivered feasts as COVID changes Thanksgiving
Vivian Zayas couldn’t keep herself from scrolling through photos of last Thanksgiving, when her mother stood at the stove to make a big pot of rice and beans and then took a seat at the edge of the table.
That was before anyone had heard of COVID-19 and before it claimed the retired seamstress. Ana Martinez died at 78 on April 1 while recovering at a nursing home from a knee replacement.
The family had its traditional meal of turkey, yams, green beans and rice and beans — but Zayas removed a seat from the table at her home in Deer Park, N.Y., and putting her mother’s walker in its place.
“It’s a painful Thanksgiving. You don’t even know— should you celebrate?” Zayas asked. “It’s a lonely time.”
The family is left with “an empty chair at the table forever,” another daughter, Alexa Rivera, said Thursday.
Americans marked the Thanksgiving holiday amid an unrelenting pandemic that has claimed the lives of more than a quarter of a million people in the United States.
Turkey and pies still came out of ovens, football was still on TV, and families still gave thanks amid lively conversations about politics. But this holiday was utterly altered after months filled with sorrows and hardships: Many feasts wee weighed down by the loss of loved ones, while others were canceled or scaled back with the virus surging.
Zoom and Facetime calls were
a fixture at dinner tables to connect with family members who didn’t want to travel. Far fewer volunteers helped at soup kitchens or community centers.
A Utah health department deliveried boxes of food to residents who are infected with the virus and couldn’t go to the store. Anew York nursing home offered driveup visits for families of residents struggling with celebrating the holiday alone.
“The holidays make it a little harder,” said Harriet Krakowsky, an 85-year-old resident of the Hebrew Home at Riverdale in New York who misses the big Thanksgiving celebrations of years past and has lost neighbors and friends to the virus. “I cry, but I get over it. We have to go on.”
On any normal Thanksgiving Day, Kara Mcklemurry and her husband would drive from their Clearwater, Fla., home to one of two places: his family’s home in another part of the state or her
family’s house in Alabama.
This year, Mcklemurry told her family there would be no visits. When her in-laws offered to stop by, the couple said no.
She and her husband didn’t want to risk infecting anyone or getting the virus themselves.
Not everyone followed Mcklemurry’s example. Millions of Americans bought tickets to fly somewhere for the holiday, crowding airports despite pleas from officials to avoid travel and gatherings.
Still, Mcklemurry, 27, wanted to do something unique to mark this unusualholiday— something to let everyone know she and her husband still feel blessed this year.
So, a week before Thanksgiving, armed with colored pens and stickers of owls with scarves, she hand wrote notes of gratitude to every member of the family.
“We’re so grateful to have you in our lives,” she wrote on a card with a cartoon fox, “even if we can’t actually be together this year for the holidays.”
In the nation’s capital, the convention center is empty unlike in previous years, when volunteers worked together to serve a meal to about 5,000 people. In the era of social distancing, the sponsored event had to be reimagined.
Ahead of the holiday, organizers delivered to 20 nonprofits 5,000 gift bags, each with winter clothing accessories, hand sanitizer and a mask, and 5,000 boxes that included a turkey sandwich with condiments, a side potato salad, a cookie and utensils.
From start to finish, Thanksgiving is different this year for Jessica Franz, a nurse who works the graveyard shift at Olathe Medical Center, in a Kansas City suburb.
For one, Franz, 39, is celebrating without her mother-in-law, Elaine Franz, who died of the coronavirus Nov. 10, just one day before her 78th birthday.
In previous years, her motherin-law would lay out a spread for her children and grandchildren. At Franz’s work, in a typical year, co-workers would bring food for a potluck.
None of that happened this year.
The family shifted the festivities to Zoom and Facetime. It was hard for her daughters — ages 2, 8 and 11. Her middle daughter was exposed to the coronavirus at school and is quarantined until Dec. 3, and her oldest daughter is struggling with the concept of a scaled-back holiday.
“We had a good conversation that was, ‘This year may be different, and that’s OK. It is one year,” Franza said. “If things are different this year and that means we get to see all the rest of our family next year, it is OK.’ ”